Trauma Attracts Trauma
What do I mean? We attract trauma
after we have trauma. That means that one can find oneself in the same
situation time and time again, as though history is repeating itself.
This is very bad; you really do not
want to experience the trauma any longer, yet it repeats itself. Trauma is
similar to a magnet. The same trauma that you experienced is the magnet that
attracts another from the same category. You can do a lot to try to avoid it,
but that this will almost certainly fail and the same trauma kind of will
happen again.
This occurs not only with large
traumas, but also with small negative incidents you do not like. It is a kind
of law of negative attraction - we do not realize how we are caught in our own
webs; our lives are repetitions of the same negative occurences, big or small.
We see this with a whole nation - Am Yisrael,
the Jewish People. The expulsion from Gush Katif happened in Israel because our
people has a traumatic history of expulsions for the past 2000 years and, remarkably, many of the people
who were in Gush Katif had also been in Yamit in the Sinai which was
also evacuated when Sinai was given to Egypt.
I see this pattern over and over in
my work when I ask people how many times they have experienced certain traumas.
Nevertheless, the wonderful thing is that
with TAT we are able to stop the whole cycle and heal the traumas causing the
repetitions.
Watch the following video about trauma:
Pain
and Relationships
I came some time ago not knowing what this method was, and realizing that the usual techniques were not going to be enough. I had tried various healing methods over the years, yet there were still there were many relationship issues as well as physical elements that needed to be cleared up. I was willing to try something where the process and benefits were totally unfamiliar.
So
I was open to accepting something new, which helps, yet still wanted to understand
what this process was all about. Therefore we spent some time on my trying to comprehend
what TAT is. The best part is performing TAT, and I've also begun working on
the physical symptoms through EFT. I realized that for the first time in twenty
years there was some kind of shift and that it was not temporary, which often
happens with new techniques, and that the process reaches somewhere deeper than
other methods. This was true even when the same triggers came up again or when there
were stressful events that would normally precipitate a systemic reaction. Once
the physical symptoms began to dissipate, I could begin to address
circumstances, the background of what seemed to be large triggers from way back
and current ones as well. Sometimes we worked in the past and sometimes it was in
the present. Sometimes it was mixed. I made a commitment to myself that this
would be part of my weekly regimen. I started to feel a growing patience and
excessive peace. Just getting a taste of the peace, even for a few minutes, is
encouraging and encouraged me to stay with it -- even though there were often
times when I wanted to stop or couldn't understand how the technique could
benefit the relationship issues.
Then
I saw the miracle in how so many issues changed without my having to tell the
other person to get help, without knowing what I did differently in terms of
the interaction with family members to bring out a different response on their
part. I couldn't really put on paper what actually occurred, I just saw and
experienced changes that I thought could never transpire. The process is
continuing and it's deepening, and I sense that a new integrity and new dignity
are within reach- not just for a few minutes, a day or a week. It could
actually be that I can live a quality life. It is as though G-d or some spirit,
or something that is pushing us to connect with Him, and to live in this world
in a positive and happy way, and he has channeled it somehow through certain
people. It's spreading and it's radiating throughout the world and touching
people of all backgrounds, of all countries and languages, economic and
socio-economic backgrounds.
So,
step by step, I feel that once again I can take my place in the world, but in a
new way; I have a new optimism about the life that I can actually live and the
service that I can provide the world.
So
I can only suggest to go beyond your present mode of thinking and be open
enough to let your heart show you the way: to learn how to live by your heart
and by your truth; to connect that very long distance between the mind and the
heart, so that you become fully aligned and flowing in this beautiful
world.
You came to me full of pains and, remember, we worked on a lot of physical pains and matters such as family issues. Your relationship with your husband was terrible and relationships with your children were not good either, so we worked on all these things. We also worked on your relationship with your parents who were not in Israel, but in another country. You suffered from the distance between you and it was expressed in the pains that you felt in your body and couldn't control until we were able to break through. Now only a small remnant of the pains exists and you will find yourself without these pains for the rest of your life. You have also told me that through TAT, you have improved your relationships, your Shalom Bait and everything else surrounding you in your home and your family relationships.
